That Damn Voice In My Head
It has become so easy to put ourselves down, to tell ourselves we aren’t good enough or that we can’t do something. Why is it so hard to stop that damn voice from telling us lies? It has become so ingrained in our subconscious that we don’t even realize we are doing it. There is so much negativity and hurt in this world, and we can’t even be nice to ourselves.
Fighting that damn voice takes energy and positivity. For a happier life, changing the way we speak to ourselves and what we choose to believe about ourselves, is critical.
My personal journey had me believing that I was not worthy of being loved, and in essence, unlovable. It also had me believing that I was weak and a burden to others. I was wrong. That voice will still come around and try to tell me lies, and sometimes I believe them for only a second. But I now understand them, and can fight back. I choose to not belittle myself any longer.
Trying to stop that negativity in your head, by shutting up that damn voice isn’t easy, but one that must be done to live a happier and more fulfilling life. I love to journal and to write. With that, I started to try something new. I got a brand new journal (and if you’re anything like me, getting a new journal or a new pen for a journal makes me just light up with happiness!!) and started my new self affirmation routine.
Each morning I wake up and write down my self affirmations. Mine always start with, You Are Enough, You are Loved, and You are Capable. If I have a different negative emotion happening, I will also write any other affirmations I may need. It could be something like, You are a Good Parent or You Can Do It. After I write my self affirmations, I write things I am grateful for. The self affirmations and the gratefulness help my mind start off the day right. Some days I may only be able to think of 1 thing I am grateful for, and others it may be 15 things. But I make myself write at least 1 thing.
Throughout the day I repeat those self affirmations. When that damn voice tries to tell me lies, I have an easier time recognizing they are lies in the moment and fighting back. Pushing through the lies is tough, and takes a lot of practice. It is not something that just happens overnight. I am here to tell you that YOU can do it. You can overcome this negative voice in your head feeding you all these lies.
At the end of the day, before bed, I re-visit my journal and write back to myself. I will look at my self affirmations and try to find an instance where I fought back, or if I let the voice win, and what I would do different tomorrow. Then I will write about what I am grateful for again, and this time, my list is usually longer than it was in the morning. I started with a positive mindset when I woke up and I go to bed with a positive mindset for tomorrow. I am choosing to find things to be grateful for and to fight off the lies my voice is telling me.
I want to tell you now, that I know you can do this. You may want to give up at points. I want to tell you that it is ok. It is ok to overwhelmed, frustrated, exhausted and vulnerable about re-writing how you speak to yourself. It took me years to figure out, and even then I am still not perfect. But you need to know this:
You are Enough
You are Capable
Your are Loved
You are strong
You can do it
You are worthy
I choose to start my day in a positive mindset and I fight hard to combat my negative self talk by silencing that damn voice. I know you can too. We are all in this together. You are not alone.
Love and Happiness to all!
Melissa M
Happinessexpected@gmail.com